commentary by Patrick H. Moore
Okay, so you’ve gone and cheated on your husband/wife/boyfriend/girlfriend. Furthermore, it was just a quick-hitter, a one-time-thing. So the question then becomes: to confess or not to confess?
Most American men would probably say confessing is a bad idea, for after all, what good will it do other than to perhaps salve your conscience? Generally speaking, confession can only hurt the cuckolded partner. I can’t speak for the women, I don’t know what they would recommend, though perhaps their opinions would vary.
The important thing to remember is Do Not Cheat if afterwards you are going to be wracked with such guilt that you wind up confessing to assuage your own conscience.
This is what happened to Veronika Filippova, a rather fetching 27-year-old Russian newlywed and it cost her dearly.
Morbid of The Dreamin’ Demon writes:
Ivan Kuzmin has been accused of setting his new bride on fire because she had sex with an ex-lover on their wedding night after he fell asleep.
According to reports, Veronika Filippova, 27, had an affair with an ex-boyfriend after Kuzmin passed out drunk at their wedding reception. She was so consumed with guilt that she later told Kuzmin everything.
Now before we go any farther, lets analyze the possible motivations of the players. The wedding occurred somewhere in Volgograd (formerly Stalingrad) in southern Russia where vodka flows like water, especially on festive occasions. Brother Ivan may have slopped down a little too much Kalashnikov or whatever he was drinking which caused him to pass out. Veronika may have been (probably was) anticipating “making beautiful music” with Ivan at the end of the evening and could been terribly disappointed or even miffed because the old boy exercised bad judgment and got too drunk to deliver.
Upon discovering that Ivan was snoring, Veronika may have gotten drunk herself to numb the pain of abandonment, or she may have already have had too much to drink. We all know that when drunk, some men and some women have the bizarre experience of discovering that potential sex partners are more or less interchangeable and that everyone looks pretty good.
This is one of the many reasons heavy drinking is not advisable. In fact, once upon a mattress, after a long night of clubbing and heavy drinking approximately 33 years ago, I ended up with a woman I had purposely avoided earlier in the evening. Now this is embarrassing but it happened. Such is the power of alcohol…
In the case of poor Veronika, although you can’t be sure, it’s certainly possible that her ex was drifting around the fringes of the wedding party, just biding his time, hoping to get his hands on her. In any event, when he had the chance to do just that, he certainly didn’t “Just Say No”.
So it turns out that Veronika made two mistakes and the first led to the second as sure as the moon’s the North Wind’s cookie. 1) She slept with her ex. Okay, big mistake but not the end of the world. Her ex probably was not going to tell Ivan. 2) V’s fatal mistake was letting her guilt overwhelm her so that she confessed.
Sometime after she ‘fessed up, Veronika fell asleep. Brother Ivan took advantage of this opportunity and doused her with alcohol. This woke her up. She must have realized he was in a rage; she reportedly tried to escape, but her angry husband set her on fire with a cigarette lighter.
Filippova was rushed to the hospital with burns to over 80 percent of her body but would die a few hours later. Kuzmin was arrested and has admitted to murdering Filippova. He’s now facing 15 years in prison. (As you can see, even in Russia, sentences in capital cases are much lighter than they are here in the lock-‘em-up USA.)
What Veronika didn’t know was that Brother Ivan had once served ten years in prison for the attempted rape and murder an underage girl. Had she known this salient fact, she may well have never tied the knot with him in the first place. In fact, she might have moved clear to Vladivostok to get away from him.
According to Sergey Domnyshev, an investigator in the Kirov district of Volgograd, in his earlier fall from grace, Ivan was convicted of trying to rape a girl under the age of 18 and then trying to destroy evidence by setting the apartment on fire with the girl still inside.
According to Sugar Daily, in commenting on Veronika’s cruel fate, one of her relatives said plaintively:
“He set her on fire when she was sleeping, pouring alcohol on her and our Veronica is gone.”